How to get over a Soul Mate!

How to Get Over a SoulMate
I met my soulmate in 2013. One of the best experiences in my life, that led to the worst. If you’ve been through this you will understand what I’m talking about. It is frustrating, exhilarating, heart wrenching and enlightening. People will confuse you, tell you to “go for it!”, and others will say its doomed and to give up. Who do you believe? Your heart says you can’t let go, be absolutely loyal no matter what and you shouldn’t move on. You know you have unconditional love for them, and it is unique, not something you feel for everyone. You think to yourself, how many other people out there will treat them as well as you will? Your brain is telling you this is a massive waste of time and energy and everyone thinks your nuts. If your friends and family haven’t been through it they won’t understand, so you keep it to yourself. So which is it? Well, I’ve done a lot of work on myself, and after a while you will realize that your soulmate is not putting in the effort here, and they are not treating you the way you deserve. You wish you could get out of this sad cycle, but every time you try to they pop up in your mind again, like there is something left unfinished and you have this urge to do something about it. There can be many reasons why you are separated. Doesn’t really matter why, if you are reading this most likely you have been separated for a while and it feels like you can’t move on no matter how hard you try, and you feel alone while they are off in their own world. You can start the blame game; blame them, blame yourself. You weren’t pretty enough, you weren’t rich enough, you weren’t thin enough. But you look around and it seems other people think you are great, so what is wrong with your soulmate? Then you blame them. They are not spiritually awake yet, they are afraid to leave the person they are with, they were hurt in the past and afraid to love again, they don’t see a good thing when they have it, etc. Around and around you go, and what happens? When you are sick and tired of it, and you have gone through many release and cleansing rituals and still have no relief, here are a few helpful tips.

1. Replace them with someone better.
Someone gorgeous. Someone spectacular. Someone that beats them on every level. They treat you right, they can communicate well, and they love you and show it. Doesn’t have to be someone real, you can make them up. Now when your soulmate pops up in your mind, push them aside and replace them with this person. You will feel better. If you feel guilty remind yourself that your soulmate isn’t treating you right or they aren’t being faithful to you, so you have nothing to feel ashamed of. You have the right to feel better!
2. Find something enjoyable to do.
Go to the beach. Go to a restaurant. Talk to your friends. Watch a movie. Read a book. Take up a hobby. All good distractions. Whatever gets your mind off of them.
3. Get out of the house!
Sometimes we want to sit in our pity, and be left alone. We want to feel sorry for ourselves and feel like victims. You will just end up on that merry-go-round again of blame and depression. Get out of the house! Into the sun (look up Vitamin D and it’s positive effects on depression), go to the park, go to a little cafe, go to a bar and talk to someone. Most people are nice. Follow your feelings on this one. Water and nature in general is very harmonizing and will make you feel better. After you come home open up the windows, clean up, make it smell nice. Get that negative energy out of the house (sage and sweetgrass works too) and replace it with something positive. You will feel the difference.
4. Build yourself up.
Use positive affirmations and realize that you are worth it. There are many, many reasons why it didn’t work out with the soulmate, but that doesn’t mean you’ll never find anyone again. Once you KNOW you are worth it, get out there and meet people. Meet up groups or restaurants are good places. You don’t have to break hearts, but watch how people react to you, love is all around. Once I got out there I noticed a ton of people, both sexes, that found me incredibly attractive. I got asked out, was flirted with and it felt great. It validates all of that good stuff you are telling yourself. You feel good, it shows on the outside and people want to be closer to you.
5. They come to you, don’t try so hard.
This is using law of attraction. It works. Reverse your thinking that you have to try hard to find someone and it takes up so much time that you just don’t have because you are 30, 40, 50 etc. Instead, make up your mind that whatever you believe in (universe, God, angels, etc) will bring your next compatible connection TO YOU. Then follow your feelings. Feel like ice cream today? Go have some. Feel like going to that restaurant? Go and have a good time. Allow yourself to be approached, make eye contact and watch and observe. I think the instant I did this I had around 3 people approach me with a romantic interest for me in a couple weeks.

Maybe they will wake up and start treating you right, maybe they won’t. Take care of yourself, because chances are you are a nurturing, caring person that will make a great partner to someone. Losing a soulmate can be one of the most heart wrenching experiences you will ever have to go through. I’ve met people that waited years for theirs with no relief, while the other person has fully moved on with their life. If you are reading this then you understand. Stop the painful cycle and get happy again. Maybe even happier than you’ve ever been. I’ve had some of the best moments of my life last year after I started using this regimen, and you can too.

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A Way to Help get Spiritual Balance

As many of you know I have been going through a very rough period in my life the last few months. Today I was at the train station waiting to get on a train to go to my younger daughter’s to watch her children. The Sun was just rising and the Moon still hang beautifully in the sky. It was then I remembered something that was taught to me when I was just a novice of an easy way to help gain or regain balance spiritually.

This can be done during any Moon phases except the New Moon. The reason it can not be done on the New Moon is because you have to see the Moon in relation to where the Sun is rising. Stand at a point you think or feel is halfway between the Sun and Moon. Acknowledge the two however you wish, I personally say, “Good morning Ra (Egyptian Sun God) and Sister Moon.” Then take a few steps forward while chanting three times ” Sun and Moon please bring me balance.” Turn around and walk to where you started chanting the same words three times. When you have reached your starting point be sure to thank the Sun and Moon for their help.

This is not a fix all for spiritual unbalance but it will help along with meditation, Chakra cleansings, and listening to your spirit guides for direction.

Words From My Spirit Guide

Observations Of Imbolc

It’s almost 10 o’clock and everyone in my house is snug in bed. I sit here on the couch with my feet curled under me, reading an excellent article from Patheos on the Holiness of Imbolic.

While reading, I was contemplating what the article means to me. I mean really, What’s the big deal with Imbolc!?! So it’s just another Sabbat… As you can tell, I’m not very religious and something has to mean something to me personally, for me to worship it. Just as the last thought entered my mind, my Spirit Guide softly said, “It means this; What things have happened to you in your life, are you truly grateful for?”

I immediately started naming off about a dozen before my Spirit Guide interrupted me and said, “That’s what Imbolc represents!”

Now I understand and now it’s important to me.

I am grateful for good health. I am grateful for a new home and a beautiful view in every direction. Mostly, I am grateful for the health and love of my family.

Bright Blessings Sisters and Brothers In The Craft,

SunRay Sorceress

Imbolc Offering Plate

Imbolc Plate


This is a photo of the offering plate I painted for Imbolc.  It was my first try at painting pottery since 1984!  I learned quite a bit and plan on painting an offering plate for each of the Sabbats.  I have designs I drew in my Bullet Journal to use as a template.  I realized I need to use more simple designs until I get better at painting.  Hopefully you can see the roots of the tree and a seed in the ground just starting to send up a green shoot.  The sun is in a cloudy sky and there is snow on the ground.  The Celtic Triskele kind of got lopsided! It was hard squeezing the plastic bottle to get the paint out.

© 2016 Wolf Woman Ways

Travel Altars

Travel altar 1 Travel Altar 2

I taught a class this past September on how to make a Travel Altar.  You can certainly use whatever items you are drawn to use.

Some things to consider are what size of container you want to use to put everything in.  Do you want to use crystals to represent the elements or items?  What do you want to use it for?  For example: to visit a sick friend or family member in the hospital to have your altar with you to help you focus to send healing energies.

In the first photo I used an Altoids can with a mix of crystals and symbols to represent the elements.

In the second photo I put everything in a small change purse.  I used embroidery floss in elemental colors to make the travel cords or travel “robes” to put around my neck or you can create a circle with it.

© 2016 Wolf Woman Ways

Understanding What It Means To Respect

A few days ago I was exploring the ocean shore for driftwood that might want to come home with me. It was close to noon and when I got there I noticed the tide was high. Before I started hiking on and around the driftwood I felt my Spirit Guide give me a nudge to check the local tide chart. I discovered another important piece of information, the tide would be coming in for another 30 minutes, so I decided to move back a couple of feet. All of a sudden, I looked to the left and a sneaker wave was quickly approaching me. I can tell you that the Sea Spirits weren’t against taking me to the ocean depths, so I turned and ran to higher ground. A few minutes earlier I had noticed a family farther down the shore. They were teasing the edge of the Sea, laughing, just before getting their feet wet and having a great time. The father and daughter couldn’t see that as they turned away from the ocean to run, a second and third wave were coming . Those two were so much bigger then the first wave. In that moment I knew that they were going to get hit and I was horrified! All I could do was watch a young girl possibly die. The wave hit the dad and the girl with a terrible force. They were no longer in sight. After that I could see the dad stand up, look around with complete fear as he saw his daughter slam against one of the 2000 pound driftwood logs. He dove  back into the wave, grabbing his daughter seconds before she was dragged back into the ocean.
I talked to the family afterwards and found out that they were on their way to a memorial and decided to stop for a little fun. I said that I was so glad that his little girl was going to be okay and I was grateful this situation didn’t turn into a second memorial. I tuned to look out at the fierce ocean and thought, you are beautiful, wild and most importantly, you are to be respected.  I also discovered the importance of finding out anything and everything before working with an Element. Appreciate your Gift and Work your Craft Intelligently.
I am very grateful for all of you.
Bright and Safe Blessings,
SunRay Sorceress

Brighid – Hearth Goddess of Ireland

Origins of Brighid:

In Irish mythological cycles, Brighid (or Brighit), whose name is derived from the Celtic brig or “exalted one”, is the daughter of the Dagda, and therefore one of the Tuatha de Dannan. Her two sisters were also called Brighid, and were associated with healing and crafts. The three Brighids were typically treated as three aspects of a single deity, making her a classic Celtic triple goddess.

Patron and Protector:

Brighid was the patron of poets and bards, as well as healers and magicians. She was especially honored when it came to matters of prophecy and divination. She was honored with a sacred flame maintained by a group of priestesses, and her sanctuary at Kildare, Ireland, later became the home of the Christian variant of Brighid, St. Brigid of Kildare. Kildare is also the location of one of several sacred wells in the Celtic regions, many of which are connected to Brighid. Even today, it’s not uncommon to see ribbons and other offerings tied to trees near a well as a petition to this healing goddess.

Celebrating Brighid:

There are a variety of ways to celebrate the many aspects of Brighid at Imbolc. If you’re part of a group practice or a coven, why not try Honoring Brighid With a Group Ceremony? You can also incorporate prayers to Brighid into your rites and rituals for the season. Having trouble figuring out what direction you’re headed? Ask Brighid for assistance and guidance with a Brighid’s Crossroads Divination Ritual.

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